Tribute to Dennis Wingfield

Dennis Wingfield was the driving force behind the creation of the Calling Couples to Christ website and the primary author of the blog posts. Today marks the first anniversary of Dennis passing into eternal life. To honor and remember him I (Rose) share the following obituary/tribute. Please know that his whole family appreciates your thoughts and prayers.

On July 20, 2021, Dennis Wingfield, loving husband, father, and grandfather passed away at the age of 69. His funeral Mass was celebrated on July 24 at Holy Family Church in Novi, MI. He is buried in Holy Sepulchre Cemetery, Southfield, MI.

Dennis was preceded in death by his wife, Therese (Wilson) Wingfield and his parents. He is survived by his wife, Rose (Harrold) Wingfield, brother Dave (Diane) Wingfield, sister, Linda Koss, sister-in-law Barb Wingfield, three children: Emily Waugh (Robert) Plane, Mary Krizewicz and Joe Krizewicz, eight grandchildren: Alex, Aidan, and Ella Waugh, Emma and Evan Plane, Michael Van Dis, LilliAnna and Lucas Krizewicz, and several nieces and nephews.

Dennis was born on June 14, 1952, in St. Clair Shores, MI to Ralph and Marilyn (Ruthenberg) Wingfield. He grew up loving cars and set out to be an automotive engineer. In 1975, he graduated from Kettering (General Motors Institute) with a Bachelor of Mechanical Engineering and spent the next 32 years designing cars from bumper to bumper. In 1980 he was awarded a Master of Engineering Management from the University of Detroit. After having worked for each of the “Big Three,” he retired from Ford Motor Company in 2007.

He was the quintessential car enthusiast being able to identify the year, make, model and production details for virtually every car that drove down the street. He even kept an “Auto Biography” to record all the vehicles he owned. Dennis also had a passion for performance and believed in “living life a ¼ mile at a time.” His pride and joy was a 1993 Ford Mustang that he modified to run a ¼ mile in 12 seconds. The magazine Muscle Mustangs and Fast Fords featured his innovative work in 1996.

Far exceeding Dennis’ love for cars was his love for the Lord and his family. He was deeply committed to the teachings of the Catholic Church and sharing his faith with others. He passionately loved Therese, Rose and his children and grandchildren. He especially loved babies and always wanted to sniff their tiny toes. Every day he prayed for an end to abortion. He served on the Board of Mother and Unborn Baby Care and helped establish the Gabriel Project at a. local parish.

He believed strongly in God’s plan for marriage. For 20 years, he ministered to separated and divorced spouses seeking marriage restoration through Rejoice Marriage Ministries. During this time, he wrote a book entitled Standing for God’s Best. Together with Rose, he spent 10 years helping couples prepare for, enrich, and restore their marriages. To equip himself for this ministry, he earned a Master of Pastoral Studies from Sacred Heart Major Seminary in 2016.

Dennis modeled exceptionally well, what it meant to be a husband, father, grandfather, and friend, but most importantly a servant of God. He will be profoundly missed by many.

To learn more or reminisce about Dennis, click on the following links:

Testimony of a Restored Marriage  – podcast of Dennis sharing his story

Hope For The Hopeless devotional written for Rejoice Marriage Ministries

Standing for God’s Best – book written by Dennis (Kindle available at Amazon)

Funeral Mass – video on Holy Family YouTube channel (homily at 32:08)

The Theology of Thermometers and Thermostats


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Saints John Chrysostom, Augustine of Hippo, and Thomas Aquinas have exerted an enormous influence on Christian thinking, writing and theology. They are included among the Doctors and Saints of the Church, in recognition of their outstanding teaching, orthodoxy and holiness of life. Although the writings of each cover many subjects, we share their insights on marriage.

St. John Chrysostom (347-407) is regarded as the greatest orator and biblical commentator of the Eastern Church. The name “Chrysostom” means “gold mouth,” given to him because of his outstanding preaching skills. Chrysostom is one of the greatest apologists of Christian marriage. He expounded that God ordained marriage primarily to promote holiness of the husband and wife and secondarily to produce children.

Here is St. John Chrysostom’s advice to young husbands on how to treat their wives…

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Saints Louis and Zélie Martin: Exemplars of Holy Family Life


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Tomorrow, July 12th, is the Feast Day of Saints Louis and Zélie Martin, the parents of St. Thérèse of Lisieux, the “Little Flower.” In October 2015, they became the first couple to be canonized together as husband and wife.

Blessed Louis and Marie Zélie Guerin Martin were married on July 12, 1858. The couple had nine children, but four of them died in infancy. All five of the surviving children, including St. Thérèse, entered religious life, highlighting the important role parents play in their children’s human and spiritual upbringing. Zélie Martin died of cancer in 1877, at the age of 45; her husband died when he was 70 in 1894.

Fr. Antonio Sangalli, vice postulator for the cause for the canonization of the couple, said, “Louis and Zélie demonstrated through their lives that conjugal love is an instrument of holiness, a way to holiness consummated by the two persons together.” He noted that this aspect today is “the most important aspect to value in the family. There is an enormous need for a simple spirituality lived out in daily life.”

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Blessed Pier Giorgio Frassati: Defender of Hope


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Today the Church celebrates the Feast of Blessed Pier Giorgio Frassati, who St. John Paul II called “The Man of the Beatitudes”[1] and a “living witness and courageous defender of hope on behalf of the young Christians of the twentieth century.”[2]

Pier Giorgio Frassati was born in Turin, Italy on April 6, 1901, the son of Alfredo and Adelaide Frassati. Pier Giorgio’s father owned the anti-Fascist Italian newspaper La Stampa and was influential in Italian politics, holding positions as an Italian Senator and Ambassador to Germany. His mother was an artist.

Neither of his parents were particularly pious, in fact, his father was an agnostic. But his mother saw to it that he and his sister Lucia received the sacraments. Consumed by their own interests and activities, his parents were unaware of the deep faith and spiritual movement in Pier Giorgio’s heart and mind, and his love for Jesus.

At an early age, Pier Giorgio joined the Marian Sodality and the Apostleship of Prayer. He obtained permission to receive daily Communion, which was rare at that time. He assisted at daily Mass, received Holy Communion, and spent much time in intense personal prayer after Mass. He also had special devotion to the Blessed Mother. His intense spiritual life moved him to action. At 17, he joined the St. Vincent de Paul Society to serve the sick and needy. Like his father, He also became a political activist. But instead of following the steps of his father, he chose to pursue a civil engineering degree, much to his father’s disappointment.

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Living Morally in an Immoral Culture


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St. Peter tells us that we are made holy through “obedience to the truth” (1 Pet 1:22). Unfortunately, in today’s culture, each individual decides what is true and these many “truths” conflict with each other. What is the ultimate guide for moral truth?

St. John Paul II in his classic encyclical Veritatis Splendor (The Splendor of Truth), says: “Only God, the Supreme Good, constitutes the unshakeable foundation and essential condition of morality.” He goes on to say that only “upon this truth is it possible to construct a renewed society and to solve the complex and weighty problems affecting it.”[1] Society today simply has lost its bearings and moral compass.

John Paul II identified the spread of a devious political movement that aims to rob the dignity and authentic freedom of the person in following the moral authority of God almighty.

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St. Joseph: Model of Fatherhood


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Father’s Day is celebrated in the United States on the third Sunday of June. It is a day to celebrate fatherhood, paternal bonds, and the influence of fathers in society, especially in the foundation of society, the family.

The Church holds up St. Joseph as the model and exemplar of fatherhood. In Joseph’s marriage to Mary, God ushers in the sacrament of the New Covenant. St. John Paul II in his apostolic exhortation Redemptoris Custos (On the Person and Mission of Saint Joseph in the Life of Christ and of the Church), speaks of how God used Mary and Joseph to break the curse of original sin ushered in by Adam and Eve…

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Family Devotion to the Two Hearts


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Today, the Church celebrates the Feast of the Sacred Heart of Jesus and tomorrow, the Feast of the Immaculate Heart of Mary (Friday, June 11 and Saturday, June 12, 2021). Devotion to both the Sacred Heart and the Immaculate Heart is encouraged three times in the Fatima message.

First, in the spring of 1916, the Angel of Peace spoke these words to the three children of Fatima: “The Hearts of Jesus and Mary are attentive to the voice of your supplications.”

Again in the summer of 1916, the Angel says: “The Holy Hearts of Jesus and Mary have merciful designs for you.”

Finally, in the fall of 1916, the angel dictates a prayer to the children which in part says: “And I draw upon the infinite merits of the Sacred Heart of Jesus and the Immaculate Heart of Mary that You might convert poor sinners.”

In addition, on several occasions, Jesus told Sister Lucia that He desired adoration of both hearts.

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Solemnity of Corpus Christi – Marital Imagery in the Eucharist


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Today the Church celebrates the Solemnity of Corpus Christi, the Real Presence of Jesus Christ in the Holy Eucharist – His Body, Blood, Soul, and Divinity. Did you know that marriage is an image of the Holy Eucharist?

Since its earliest days, the Church has held up marriage as a profound image of God’s love for His people, brought to fruition in Christ’s love for His bride, the Church.

Pope Benedict XVI, in his book The Spirit of the Liturgy, describes how God’s covenant with His people Israel images the union of man and woman in marriage:

The election of Israel…appears as the love story of God and his people. The covenant is expounded through the analogy of betrothal and marriage, as the binding of God’s love to man and of man to God. Thus human love was able to serve as a profoundly real analogy of God’s action in Israel.[1]

He further describes how the Eucharist parallels the union of man and woman in marriage:

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Family: Mirror of the Holy Trinity


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Today the Church celebrates the Feast of the Holy Trinity. Since A.D. 200, Christians have described God as the Holy Trinity or three persons in one. It is the central belief or doctrine of the Church and has been celebrated as the feast of the Holy Trinity since the ninth century.

Despite this longstanding doctrine or belief, the Trinity, according to the Catechism of the Catholic Church “is a mystery of faith in the strict sense, one of the ‘mysteries that are hidden in God, which can never be known unless they are revealed by God’” (237). So how can we better understand this mystery and live it out in our marriages and families?

The Holy Trinity is a divine community of life and love, the intimate community of three persons, the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit. God created us “in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them” (Gen 1:27). We were created in the image of God who lives and loves in intimate community.

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Sent on Mission by the Holy Spirit


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Today the Church celebrates the Feast of Pentecost when Holy Spirit descends on Mary, the Apostles, and other disciples of Jesus, just as He promised before His Ascension.

So when they had come together, they asked him, “Lord, will you at this time restore the kingdom to Israel?” He said to them, “It is not for you to know times or seasons which the Father has fixed by his own authority. But you shall receive power when the Holy Spirit has come upon you; and you shall be my witnesses in Jerusalem and in all Judea and Samar′ia and to the end of the earth.” And when he had said this, as they were looking on, he was lifted up, and a cloud took him out of their sight. Acts 1:6-9 (emphasis added)

Jesus’ promise of the Holy Spirit was not just for His Apostles and disciples in the Upper Room. He continues to pour out His Spirit upon us and His Church today. He is also sending us out on mission to preach the Gospel of His saving work on the cross. He has equipped us with the Holy Spirit who will guide us in all knowledge and truth; “the Counselor, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in my name, he will teach you all things” (Jn 14:26).

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